It is easy to feel guilty as a parent. There are many things to feel guilty about....not spending enough time with our children, being divorced, not getting them to bed on time and the list goes on ad nausem! However, guilt is not only a waste of your energy but is also a way to create entitled children. Why? Because we usually go overboard to make up to them for what we think we did wrong. We buy them extra things, we let them eat things we shouldn't, or we violate other limits we had set in place.
Entitled children are not fun people. They carry around an attitude that life owes them something. If they don't get what the feel is owed to them, they often get angry and hurtful.
Ask yourself, "Is their anything I am feeling guilty of that is not helping the relationship?" If yes, work on forgiving yourself. Or take one small action toward creating a solution to the problem. For example, if you are feeling guilty about not spending enough time with your child, make a date with her and put it in your calendar.
Wishing you much success on your parenting journey,
Author of "Redirecting Children's Behavior"
Kathryn on "Leading Edge Parenting" Radio
Kathryn Kvols, author of the powerful book and course "Redirecting Children's Behavior" will be interviewed on the "Leading Edge Parenting" with Sandi Schwartz February 17th, Wed. 11 AM PST. Don't miss this powerful program! Put it on your calendar! Click here!
Sandi loved Kathyrn's work so much last time she has asked her to be a guest again this month!
Kathryn's New E-book: Turn Misbehavior Into Cooperation!
Would you like more cooperation in your home?
Would you like to greatly diminish power struggles?
Would you like your day with your kids to work more smoothly?
This e-book tells you how.
It includes easy to use, effective tools to turn your child's misbehavior into cooperation.
In addition you will learn:
How to identify each family member's needs. Included is a worksheet to determine which needs are and are not getting met in order to make improvements.
Questions to ask children to expand their thinking to help them make more effective choices.
How to create routines to make your day go more smoothly.
After each section in the e-book there are worksheets to help you create an action plan to implement what you have read.
If you are a therapist or a coach, this is an excellent tool to use with your clients.
It is also a great review for people who read or have taken the "Redirecting Children's Behavior" course.